Marlies Says

To me, mother is a verb. It’s not something we are. It’s something we do. It’s about planting seeds and nurturing dreams and bursting with pride when we’ve helped others blossom. So, this Mother’s Day – biological mother or not – let’s celebrate the Mother Earth in all of us!

Like our ancestors who worshipped both Mother Earth and Father Sky, I stay grounded by watching the stars. But what can astrology tell me about my career and leadership skills?
About 15 years ago I became interested in astrology. Based on the premise ‚as above, so below‘, this endlessly fascinating science analyzes the marriage of Mother Earth and Father Sky. In other words, it looks at the relationship between patterns in the sky and phenomena on earth. I believe that studying your natal chart – the astronomical snapshot of the sky taken at the moment and from the position you were born – can provide you with precious tools to express your natural gifts, in many different areas of your life. So, when renowned ‚astro–economist‘ Han van Straaten suggested a reading of my chart, focusing on my career and leadership skills, I jumped at the chance! Here are some highlights of the insightful ’soul map‘ he made for me:

Have you heard the call? The call to venture into the unknown and meet your tribe in an ecstatic celebration of love, music and nature? Whether it’s a full–moon party on a tropical island or a deep–desert dance fest, the party starts as soon as you decide to drop everything and follow your heart. Travel light; you only need to pack the essentials. With some great swimwear, like my own fashionable yet durable bikinis and bathing suits, you’re ready for any type of action!

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

Mother Earth and I weren’t BFF’s from the beginning. Our relationship grew in stages, like the rings of a tree, into a beautiful, soulful, if not turbulent marriage. Looking back, studying our tree rings, the saying ‚through thick and thin‘ comes to mind. There are thin rings, created during ‚lean‘ years when I largely ignored Mother Earth, while the thick, robust ones are the result of us getting up close and personal. Sometimes a little too personal… Like during a hardcore survival trip in Sweden’s wilderness when I was 16.

„Your muse for this coming season is Mother Earth? Seriously?“. Going by my friends‘ and colleagues‘ reactions, you would believe that this was the most shocking thing I had done since designing and wearing my ‚bare–butt dress‘. „Isn’t it a bit hippie-dippie?“ some would ask delicately, while others bluntly branded the subject ‚unsexy‘. I couldn’t blame them. While our ancestors saw Mother Earth as the ultimate manifestation of fertility and creativity – read: the very first sex symbol – centuries of patriarchy have tried to tame and scandalize the raw, female power she symbolizes. They almost succeeded. Almost!

How savage are you? Do you chart your own course, even in the middle of a crazy storm? The glorious female pirates in this magazine are savage for sure, but they weren’t all born that way. Each of them reached a point where they felt they HAD to break free. The universe was telling them: do it, NOW!

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

Growing up, I never belonged. But even though I got bullied and often felt lonely, deep down inside I already knew: forget fitting in, I was born to stand out! So, I proudly wore my make-up and heels to school and played by myself; an outcast in the courtyard. Let them call me a ‚freak‘ and a ‚weirdo‘; I entertained myself by fantasizing what my life would be like once I was free. One thing was for sure: I was going to be legendary. And it would happen by nurturing exactly that which made me stand out.

All the single ladies, listen up! With single women rapidly becoming the majority, it is high time to stop feeling singled out. This Singles Day, let’s celebrate our freedom and independence by sharing all those solo milestones that make us go: ‚You’ve got this!‘.

All the single ladies, listen up! With single women rapidly becoming the majority, it is high time to stop feeling singled out. This Singles Day, let’s celebrate our freedom and independence by sharing all those solo milestones that make us go: ‚You’ve got this!‘.

Who are you in your parallel life? A queen, a CEO, a swashbuckling pirate? This holiday season, let’s do some ’space-time‘ traveling and get ready to manifest our wildest dreams.

Like a mighty snake, the Nile river slithers through the driest desert land with its life-giving waters, creating a lush strip of paradise along its banks: Egypt. Not surprisingly, the Egyptians called their land a ‘Gift of the Nile’ while their most magnificent female pharaoh, Cleopatra, will always be known as ‘the Queen of the Nile’.

For nine months Zilver was part of my body, but as soon as I held her in my arms, I realized that my task as a mother was to give my daughter wings. Even if that meant she would fly away from me someday!

The Summer of Love may be more than half a century behind us, but hippie culture with its ‘multi-culti’ influences is hipper than ever. Going deeper than just using a retro filter, our Instagram generation is embracing hippie values such as wanderlust, free love and clean eating. And guess what? It may be exactly what the world needs now. Excuse us while we kiss the sky!

To shave or not to shave. Actually, that is not even the question. The question is: can we celebrate female body hair, wherever it is or isn’t?

“Now, that’s how you make an entrance!” I told my 10-year old self when I watched a voluptuous Elizabeth Taylor roll out of a carpet and onto the floor with stunning sass and self-possession in the movie ‘Cleopatra’ (1963). Liz, or Cleopatra – they became interchangeable to me – was about to lose it all and had smuggled herself into Caesar’s palace to beg for help. But of course, this bad-ass b***h didn’t beg but demand, casually stealing the Roman general’s heart while she was at it. Within a few minutes, I made a second mental note: when life drags you down, don’t be a drag, be a queen!

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

Some periods are so dramatic and life-altering that even though you can’t even fathom the outcome yet, you already know in the depth of your soul: we will forever speak of before and after. As I write this, we’re in the midst of a revolution, accelerated by a pandemic: people in face masks are marching the streets. Just like the women who started the MeToo movement and the Swedish teenager who told the world: ‘Our house is on fire’, they were tired of waiting for change. And so, they became the change.

What a year it’s been! While many of us are eager to start 2021, I would like to take a moment and look back at a year that shook us all, but still left me with gratitude and hope in my heart.

If you are like me, you cannot WAIT to kickstart the festive season by filling up your house with fresh, fragrant greens and sparkly decorations. With every shiny ornament I hang in my tree, I say a little prayer of gratitude for all the love and friendship in my life. And with every touch of gorgeous red, I honor one very special lady… Eve!

“If things happen anywhere, they happen in London,” Queen of Crime Agatha Christie once said. Well, London is never more happening than during the Holiday season, when my favorite city is transformed into a magical, fairytale-like lighting spectacle. From scoring sexy stocking fillers to scarfing down scones at the Ritz; here is how my daughter Zilver and I like to spend 24 hours in London’s Christmas wonderland.

It was a perfect day to die. Laying on the tracks, all my senses were heightened: I felt the cold metal in my neck, the blood trickling down my chin. I smelled the damp earth. Suddenly, a crippling fear crept up from deep inside my belly. What if this really was my last moment on earth? What if I died right now? I looked up at the crisp autumn sky one last time. Then I closed my eyes and descended into my deepest fear.

Most breast cancer patients (almost 75%!) have discovered the disease themselves. Early detection is incredibly important to be able to prevent needing very heavy surgeries and treatment. That’s why team marlies|dekkers is here to remind you to #feelitonthefirst!

Welcome to your private Fitting Room! Step inside for a personal, empowering experience…

If you have a social-media account – and who doesn’t? – you are a publisher, a marketeer and a writer. Yes, in this content-driven world, we are all writers. But how can you find your voice? How to best tell your story? In one single caption? Well, let’s ask the best selling novelist in history.

Did you know a woman’s heart is very different from a man’s heart? But that the male body is still the norm in ‘modern’ medicine, costing many women their lives? For this issue of Feminine Feminist, I interviewed ‘cardiofeminist’ Angela Maas who has been fighting sexism in the male dominated medical field for the past 35 years. The secret of her steadfastness? Her femininity. “I didn’t want to lose my ‘softness’,” she told me. Angela also treated herself to some permanent makeup – eyeliner and eyebrows – to always look and feel her best, even during a 4 am emergency surgery. Angela’s personal interpretation of ‘Feminine Feminism’.

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

There I was in my silk evening gown, steaming up the windows of the Orient Express with a handsome stranger when we heard a bloodcurdling scream. Just that morning, I had poisoned my husband on a Nile steamer after solving a gruesome murder at an archaeological dig in Mesopotamia. Quite a day, I dare say! Especially for a 9-year old girl in a small town in Holland.

Our brand is on a mission; we are here to empower women and spread the feminine feminist message.

We commit to use our expertise to create and find sustainable solutions for our products and introduce sustainable innovations in cooperation with other experts in the industry.

We will be transparent about the steps we take to reach a positive impact on environmental and social aspects of our supply chain. We will share our long-term goals and plans with you online.

To us being fair & equal means that human rights are respected and promoted within the company and its supply chain.

Amelia Earhart was a free spirit with an adventurous lifestyle; something considered quite outrageous for a woman at the beginning of the 20th century. But we’ve come a long way, baby!

Do you feel quite vulnerable on the beach? No wonder! Just think about it: you’re laying on your back, surrounded by strangers, and you’re wearing something minuscule that, just a few hundred meters down, on the boulevard, you wouldn’t be caught dead in! Simply put: the beach has its own set of rules. So when I started designing swimwear, I felt I needed to crack that code. Off I went, on a tour of different beaches in different countries, trying out different states of undress. (And yes, that included an exciting afternoon on a nudist beach.)

One of the perks of working out 5 times a week, besides a healthy body and mind, is having a great booty. A booty so great, in fact, that I didn’t hesitate to show it off during my own catwalk show the other day! I asked my trainer and booty icon, Canadian dancer Samantha Newman, to share a highlight from her BOOTYBUILDING101 classes.

The fact that I feel bikini-confident all year round is, of course, a nice bonus. But for me, the biggest payoff of following the keto diet is the way it optimizes my health and gives me tons of energy.

‘If you can’t eat it, why put it on your skin?’. I pretty much live by this beauty adage. After all, with your skin being one of your body’s largest organs, anything – and I mean anything! – you put onto your skin will end up in your bloodstream.

I LOVE a good podcast. When done well, it is both informative and relaxing. On top of that, the intimate quality of it can make me me feel like I am having a really good talk with a very clever friend.

Did you know that my bikinis and bathing suits are burpee proof? Thanks to their perfect fit and quick-dry material, you can turn the pool and the beach into your gym!

Can you strengthen your body and mind by exposing yourself to extremely cold temperatures? ‘Iceman’ Wim Hof, world record holder for the longest ice bath (1 hour, 53 minutes), convinced me a few winters ago that you can.

They call them the ‘Me Me Me’ generation, but I happen to be a great fan of the brave, creative, technically savvy Millennials who are taking to the streets and Twitter to voice their unfiltered opinions. I had a conversation with Dutch opinion maker and activist Anne Fleur Dekker, one of my favorite ‘new pioneers’.

As soon as I held my newborn daughter Zilver in my arms, I realized that I had been given a hugely important task: to give her wings. So, I raised her using the exact same motto with which I design all my lingerie: dare to dream, dare to grow, dare to be. And I never stopped using my own wings to fly, traveling the world to make my dreams come true. Because I believed that being ‘more than a mother’ was the best way to teach by example. But what did Zilver think of having a mother with wanderlust?

In January, I presented my newest FW20 collection during a show full of dance and entertainment in Rotterdam. All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses, powerful female icons from past and present. And for FW20, my muse will be crime writer Agatha Christie. A few months from now, you will get to discover the collections, and see how they tell stories like Agatha’s thrilling books do..

I have been called ‘crazy’ many times in my life. When I rejected my parents’ expectations to become a housewife. (“You’re deluded.”). When I applied for a prestigious art school. (“You’re crazy.”). When I decided to start a lingerie brand, designed completely from a woman’s point of view (“Who wants that?”). And they were right: what I wanted was often batshit crazy. But it seemed even crazier NOT to do it. If you want to be the pilot of your own destiny, you have no choice. You face the empty sky and fly off into the unknown.

The bright blue skies above Santa Paula Airport, 60 miles northwest of Los Angeles, were vibrating with the sounds of airplanes looping, rolling, and spinning through the California sunshine. “So fierce, I love it!”, photographer Ellen von Unwerth declared with a big smile as our models, embodying Amelia Earhart’s fearless spirit in my ‘Aviator’ couture collection, posed away for by the wings of a shiny red plane. All of a sudden, a majestic aircraft appeared in the shimmering heat above the tarmac. As it headed straight towards us with roaring engines, my heart skipped a beat.

On the 12th of October I signed the Transparency Pledge, promising to be transparent about our production locations by publishing a list of the involved factories online. The pledge was developed by a global coalition of nine trade union federations and human rights organizations and is a part of the #Go Transparent campaign organized by Clean Clothes.

All the single ladies, listen up! With single women rapidly becoming the majority, it is high time to stop feeling singled out. This Singles Day, let’s celebrate our freedom and independence by sharing all those solo milestones that make us go: ‚You’ve got this!‘.

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

The first time I saw the phenomenon that is Billie Holiday, she was wearing a frumpy maid uniform. Even though the movie I was watching with my mother -a romantic melodrama called ‚New Orleans‘ (1947)- was innocent enough, and I was still a child, I could already tell there was something terribly wrong with the picture. This gorgeous, proud woman was too glamorous for her outfit; as a matter of fact, she was way too formidable for the movie! I would soon find out that Billie Holiday was one of those women that society likes to call ‚too much‘. I was hooked.

Billie Holiday used to say: „I sing both the happy blues and the sad blues. Anything I sing, it’s a part of my life.“ I think the Badass Queen of Blues would have loved what is happening in social media right now, with women from all walks of life sharing their ‚blues‘, turning them into beauty and becoming complete in the process. Because after decades and decades of media and advertising telling us that we can only be happy when we have a ‚perfect‘ life and a ‚perfect‘ body, a growing group of shameless celebrities, bloggers and social media-savvy women are now claiming the right to be seen, with all their perfect imperfections. From Chrissy Teigen showing off the post-baby stretchmarks on her hips (fondly calling them #stretchies) to model Tess Holiday flaunting her plus-size curves with the hashtag #effyourbeautystandards; social media has emerged as an unlikely, but empowering place to shatter the stifling beauty- and lifestyle norm. WE are the norm, and we are wielding some powerful tools: self-love and hashtags!

„I need a little hot dog between my rolls; move your finger, drop something in my bowl.“ Cardi B’s latest saucy rhymes? No, it is bad-ass Blues legend Bessie Smith serenading sex in 1931, in a song written by the equally bad-ass Nina Simone. From those early 20th-century rebel blues on, popular music has been the perfect outlet for women to shamelessly celebrate female sexual pleasure. Even during the prudish Fifties, there was pop diva Dinah Washington singing about a ‚Big Long Slidin‘ Thing‘ and a decade later, Jane Birkin recorded the first female orgasm in a song with ‚Je t’aime… moi non plus‘. Granted, there was a guy involved -French provocateur Serge Gainsbourg- but Jane’s moans broke a taboo by showing the world that yes, women actually do enjoy sex. A lot.

As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I became extremely aware of what I ate. After all, I was building a person, cell by cell! But even after those 9 months, even after I finished breastfeeding my daughter -who had grown gorgeously chubby on my milk- that awareness stayed. No matter how busy I was as a working mother, I made sure I spent quality time with Zilver, eating home-made quality food. Even if she sometimes preferred fast-food and sugary sodas…

As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I became extremely aware of what I ate. After all, I was building a person, cell by cell! But even after those 9 months, even after I finished breastfeeding my daughter -who had grown gorgeously chubby on my milk- that awareness stayed. No matter how busy I was as a working mother, I made sure I spent quality time with Zilver, eating home-made quality food. Even if she sometimes preferred fast-food and sugary sodas…

You know I’m a self-made woman who has made it her purpose to challenge women to dare. It’s an achievement I am immensely proud of, and for that reason I am equally proud to label myself a feminist. But looking back more than a hundred years, I’m even prouder of the progress women have made together.

What a beautiful whirlwind 2018 has been! As I’m about to ring in the new year, I would like to take a moment and look back at an amazing year with you.

To quote one of my favorite Christmas songs: it’s the most wonderful time of the year. The magical sights, sounds and smells, the sacred spirit of togetherness; I just can’t wait for my favorite season. So, I don’t!

FOR THE WOMEN OF THE WORLD

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

Marlies to Zilver: When you look in the mirror, what do you see? No, I’m not talking about a quick peek to check your make-up or a stolen glance at a reflective store window. REALLY take a look. Get in front of a mirror, close your eyes, then slowly open them. Can you see YOU in your reflection? Or are you too fixated on the things you don’t like; that wrinkle by your left eye or those 5 extra kilos? We all have our physical insecurities, and if you want to fix them, go ahead! But starting now, I challenge you to focus on REAL confidence. The kind of confidence that makes you see your inner beauty shine through. The kind that makes you look at yourself and go…: “Damn, I love this woman!”

As liberal and open-minded as Marlies Dekkers is now, during her childhood she was equally conservative. „Every night, I would be on my knees, praying my Hail Marys.“ Still, that period is precious to her; it has shaped her into the power woman she is now. This year, Marlies celebrates being in business for 25 years, the perfect opportunity to look back at her milestones.

Flame-haired, brave-hearted and always dressed to dazzle, Elizabeth the First, also known as England’s ‘Virgin Queen’, is one of the most unforgettable women in history. Her glorious reign is known as The Golden Age ~ a period that saw the birth of Shakespeare, the defeat of the Spanish Armada and the emergence of England as a world power. It lasted almost 45 years; Elizabeth’s legacy as a feminist icon however, has already spanned nearly 5 centuries. “My sex cannot diminish my prestige.”

From Hatshepsut’s false beard to my ‚bare butt‘ dress – the many faces of power dressing.

Life lessons learned from the formidable ‘Virgin Queen‘

The second workshop and launch of Marlies’ new book ‘Unlock your potential’ is a fact!

Marlies Dekkers, the cult Dutch lingerie artist, launched her new book ‘Unlock your potential’ on February 27th in the Dream Hotel Downtown, New York City… And what a night it was!

Happy Women’s Day! I am extra excited about this edition, because wow, what a year it’s been for feminism! This is the year that we went global; that we showed up with our money, our bodies, our time and our voices to show the world: this is OUR time!

I am a firm believer in matching bras and bottoms, and you should be one too! If you are not already a matching devotee, let me convince you…

Did you know that Mexico City has its own Venice?  At only an hour’s drive from the fabulous chaos of the capital?

Did you know that Mexico City has its own Venice?  At only an hour’s drive from the fabulous chaos of the capital?

It’s called Xochimilco, meaning the ‘Place of the Flowers’ in Náhuatl, and floating down its famous green canals in a colorful, open air trajinera (gondola) while being serenaded by a band of trumpeting mariachis was one of the absolute highlights of my Mexico trip.

There I was, grooving to the infectious tunes, surrounded by relaxing locals and refreshment vendors offering delicious drinks and snacks from their boats: a Mexican fiesta on the water! This area, now recognized as a UNESCO World Heritage Site, is where the Aztecs built fertile riverbeds called chinampas, on which they were able to grow crops, thereby creating ‘Floating Gardens’. So, when you watch your boatman propel your bright-colored trajinera forward by pushing his long wooden pole in the canal, remember: in Xochimilco, you are not just traveling through water, you are traveling through time.

I’m going on a trip and I’m bringing…
Well, unfortunately not my gorgeous personal trainer. But his sexy summer work out is a nice alternative. If you like torture, that is.

You know I’m a self-made woman who has made it my purpose to challenge women to dare. It’s an achievement I am immensely proud of, and for that reason, I am equally proud to label myself a feminist. But looking back more than a hundred years, I’m even prouder of the progress women have made together.

Get your creative juices flowing

This Valentine’s, don’t wait around for that love-note or those fancy chocolates to feel loved and desired. Express yourself to fall in love with yourself, now! 

It was love at first sight, the first time I saw Frida Kahlo as a young teen. Those stubborn brows, those voluptuous flowers; this was a colourful outsider, a feminine rebel with a feminist cause, just like me! And, although we lived more than a half century apart, I felt in my heart of hearts that we shared an insatiable hunger for life, art and love. But what would really shape me was the realization that Frida wasn’t ashamed of what made her different. As a matter of fact, she celebrated it! 

This season, I celebrate the colorful life and art of Frida Kahlo, Mexican painter, selfie-queen avant la lettre and original bad-ass Feminine Feminist. With her paintings, Frida liberated feminine themes of identity, sexuality and fertility from their stigma. With her insatiable lust for life, she still encourages generations of women to shamelessly express themselves.

Love Magazine’s annual Advent Calendar entered its seventh year of releasing beautifully shot, provocative, and empowering videos featuring Hollywood A-listers.

After the very successful show in Los Angeles, the FEMININE|FEMINIST movement continues. On December 9^th Marlies will showcase her latest collection inspired by the great Edith Head at the Masters of LXRY event in Amsterdam.

Do you remember as a child, excitedly ripping open the first door of your Advent Calendar to get to the scrumptious secret within? Well, I created something for you to regain that delicious excitement… and more!

Confession: I am a total Xmas fanatic. I LIVE for the holiday season. While my usual taste can best be described as austere and intellectual, come Christmas, I’m into kitsch. Big time. Bring on the glitter, the glühwein and the sentimental songs!

Forget about stressful family gatherings and long, boring dinners; let me show you how to survive the (Christmas-) holidays in sexy style!

Imagine if there were a night where it would be socially acceptable to indulge your deepest darkest dreams. An annual opportunity for women to dress like their sexual fantasies – be it a blood-thirsty vampire or a flirtatious nun – without getting ‘slut shamed’. Wouldn’t that be amazing? Well there is a night just like that, and it happens to be one of my favorite moments of the year: Halloween.

Welcome to the Signature collection, a showcase of the uniquely seductive work of Dutch lingerie designer Marlies Dekkers.

Let’s start with a little experiment. Take a marlies|dekkers bra and hold one of the cups by your ear. Squeeze it and let go. What did you hear? A gentle ‘pop’ as it bounced back? I like to compare it sound of a well-made car door closing, say that of a Mercedes. It’s subtle and right.

I just love being an LA woman. There’s nothing like starting the day with a hike in the Hollywood Hills, followed by a green tea espresso, some vintage Gucci-hunting on Melrose, a dip in the ocean and a hot date at the Chateau Marmont. This is the place where I can go from being a fitgirl to a fashionista to a beach goddess to whatever the hell I want!

So, strong is the new sexy. But is it really that new? Anyone who has seen pictures of Ginger Rogers’ killer legs or Marilyn Monroe lifting weights in her bikini knows that in Hollywood, fit has always been hot. A short history of the fit film diva.

In art school, many years ago during a nude model drawing class, I had a life changing insight: What if I, as an artist, used a woman’s body as my canvas? If you make a painting, someone will hang it on their wall. If you design a chair, someone will sit on it. But if you design lingerie, someone will wear it, and by doing so, complete your art! I had found my mission.

All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses. Powerful female icons from past and present. Although women have been marginalized for centuries, archetypes of female power have always been there. Through my designs, I bring them to you. To help us shape the world of modern-day feminism.

Fabulous words, and they could easily have been mine, but it was the legendary Edith Head – one of Hollywood’s most iconic designers – who said this many decades ago.

Is there a dress code for mothers? Ten years ago, I figured it out with my daughter’s help…

FISH WRAPPED IN NORI SERVED WITH LEEK, ARAME AND AN ORIENTAL SAUCE

Ever wondered why you feel so amazing in my swimwear? So comfortable and confident, so safe yet so sexy? What is the secret? Well, it all started in art school, many years ago, during a nude model drawing class…

On the 7^th of February Marlies Dekkers attended the Dutch premiere of “Fifty Shades Darker”. The movie, based on the second novel of the bestsellers trilogy of E L James, showed one of the designs of Dutch lingerie designer Marlies Dekkers.

The Japanese, more than anyone else, know how to elevate the art of sensuality and seduction to a higher level. There are actually several Japanese movies that changed my (sex-)life. ‘Warm water under a red bridge’ for example, broke the taboo of female ejaculation in the sweetest, most poetic way.

‘She paints her face to hide her face,’ Arthur Golden wrote in ‘Memoirs of a Geisha’. And sure enough, traditional geisha make up, with its snow white face, deep crimson lips and dramatically black eyes and brows, has the effect of a mask.

No other woman on earth is as devoted to the art of seduction as the geisha. Just imagine: to be so masterful that you can cause accidents in the street with one simple gaze! So let’s learn from the best and re-awaken our inner femme fatale…

With Valentine’s Day coming up, let’s talk #seduceyourself. To me, the summum of seduction is driving a man insane, just by exposing a glimpse of your wrist while pouring him tea. Can you imagine?

It’s a very simple exercise, but it can unlock your lover’s deepest desires and those of your own. Who knows, you might surprise yourself! A sexy valentine guaranteed.

Does the G-spot exist? Well, the ancient Greeks knew exactly where to look…and it gave a special meaning to the term ‘nectar of the gods’.

From the suffocating corset and the burned bra to Madonna’s iconic cone-bra; the three  feminist movements have all used lingerie as a symbol for the cause. So, what’s next?

A teeny triangle or a super push up bra? Read on to find out about the best bra shapes for your body!

The goddess is back! From Nigella Lawson, self-acclaimed ‘Domestic Goddess’, to Jennifer Lopez whose (much younger)
lover adoringly talks about his ‘Sex Goddess’. And how about women everywhere using the term to affirm their sisterhood,
as in: ‘You go, goddess!’?

I love cooking, I love heels. And boy, do I love cooking in my heels! (wearing preferably not much else…) Can I still be a feminist?

A few months before I gave birth to my daughter Zilver, IT happened…

If you could wear only one colour of lingerie for the rest of your life, what colour would that be?

If you could wear only one colour of lingerie for the rest of your life, what colour would that be?

I love the beach and when it comes to my beach bag, I’m incredibly organised. A day spent in the sun, sand and waves? I’ve got the essentials! And now you have a chance to WIN my favourites!

Der traditionelle Bikini besteht aus kaum mehr als drei winzigen Stoffstücken in Form von Dreiecken. Ich beschloss, dass Sie etwas Besseres verdienen.

Did you know that Lagertha, my kick-ass Viking heroine and style icon, isn’t just a character in a tv series*? She is an actual historic figure!

Growing up in the Catholic South of Holland, it was one of the first stories I ever heard: the story of Eve and the apple…

And so, I will spend my first Valentines alone. Not literally alone; as usual, I will be surrounded by friends, family, lovers even. I’m just not in a steady relationship, for the first time in almost 25 (!) years.

What if superwoman had been a Viking? Meet my latest inspiration: the legendary Lagertha.

‘It took me 50 years to look this good.’ I always smile when I see that quote on t-shirts and birthday cards. Because you know what? It did take me 50 years to look and feel this good! Here’s how…

Kann man Körper und Geist stärken, indem man sich kalten Temperaturen aussetzt? Im Selbstversuch habe ich die Wim-Hof-Methode ausprobiert. Der Niederländer Wim Hof ist auch bekannt als „Der Eismann“. Ich kann Ihnen sagen: Ich habe mehr als nur überlebt …

Das Schlafzimmer als persönliches Heiligtum, weich und glänzend – Ihre tief verborgenen Fantasien treten ans Licht … Erwecken Sie Ihre Sinne …

Vor über 20 Jahren aß ich zum ersten Mal dunkle Schokolade und fand sie furchtbar bitter und krümelig. Also beschloss ich, mich im Schokoladeessen zu trainieren …

Im Galopp durch die freie Natur, den Wind im Haar – nicht zu wissen, was die Zukunft bringt, treibt Sie voran … Erwecken Sie Ihre Sinne.

Sie ist mittlerweile zum trendigen Gadget avanciert, doch glauben Sie mir: eine Augenbinde kann ein Liebesspiel zu einer komplett neuen Erfahrung machen …

Erotisch aufgeladen – die Puppen tanzen lassen und die absolute Kontrolle behalten, egal, was Ihnen die Nacht vor die Füße wirft … Erwecken Sie Ihre Sinne.

Haben Sie einen gewissen Geruch „da unten“? Natürlich haben Sie den! Und Sie sollten lernen, ihn zu lieben – das könnte das Beste sein, was Sie jemals für Ihre Gesundheit und Ihr Sexualleben getan haben …

Liebe ist die Poesie der Sinne – Honoré de Balzac

Was, wenn es tatsächlich ein Gerät oder Spielzeug gäbe, das auf Knopfdruck erotisches Verlangen weckt? Mega-sexy veranschaulichte der legendäre italienische Comicautor diese Idee.

Stell dir vor: Picasso, der gerade einem Nobelpreisträger schmutzige Witze erzählt und Coco Chanel, wie sie in einer Ecke mit ihrem (nicht-so) unbekannten Lover Igor Stravinsky rummacht.

We will launch our exciting new range of lingerie designed to AWAKEN YOUR SENSES.

Die Top 3 Pariser Plätze, die man sehen sollte oder an denen man gesehen werden sollte.

Eine zeitlose und klassische Kombination für eine modische Female Forward Frau.

Warum verdienst du es, dich mit einem Stück Luxus zu belohnen?

BFF’S und mehr … erfahre mehr über die Beziehung zwischen Misia und Coco!

Das Bewahren der Inspiration von Misia in einem, erotischem Duft.

An den ersten modernen Olympischen Spielen in Athen 1896, wurde es Frauen nicht erlaubt daran teilzunehmen, da das „praxisfern, uninteressant, unschön und einfach nur falsch sein würde. Lese weiter und finde heraus, wie die Franzosen das geändert haben!

Ich mag es intensiv. Egal was ich tue, ich tue alles aus tiefer Leidenschaft, sonst würde ich meiner Meinung nach nur meine Zeit verschwenden.

Kunst inspiriert Mode, aber was inspiriert die Kunst?

Mädchen im Teenageralter müssen gegen ihre Mütter rebellieren. Das gehört sich so. Aber was, wenn die Mutter selbst eine Rebellin ist? Und zwar die Dessous-Rebellin schlechthin?

„Bitte zeichnet eure Brüste und schreibt in einem Satz auf, wie ihr zu ihnen steht“, bat ich 15 Frauen, die bei marlies|dekkers arbeiten…

Was ist erotisch? Mark Zuckerberg (der Gründer von Facebook und Wachhund über die Inhalte) mag ja der Ansicht sein, schon ein sichtbarer Nippel verdiene diese Qualifikation, doch ich glaube, dass es manchmal mehr braucht als einen nackten Körper, um erotisches Begehren zu wecken. Genau genommen ist das seit 20 Jahren meine Hauptmotivation, morgens überhaupt aus dem Bett zu kommen.

Weshalb sind meine Dessous teurer als Dessous von der Stange? Dafür gibt es mehrere Gründe…

Um den “perfect fit” zu erhalten, verspreche ich Ihnen nur das Beste für Ihre Brüste zu designen und zu produzieren.

Wenn Sie einen BH anprobieren, stehen Sie in der Regel vor einem Spiegel und begutachten sich, oder? Vielleicht beugen Sie sich ein wenig vornüber und drehen sich langsam um die eigene Achse, um aus verschiedenen Blickwinkeln zu betrachten, wie sich der BH an Ihnen macht. Und das war’s auch schon. Wenn’s gefällt, wird der BH gekauft.

Die meisten von uns – satte 85 % – tragen die falsche BH-Größe. Erkennen Sie einige dieser klassischen BH #UNFÄLLE? Ich habe da ein paar Lösungen…

Ein BH ist ein BH, oder? Falsch! Aus diesem Grund solltest du auf folgende Punkte beim nächsten BH-Kauf achten:

Wie Design, Passform und eine weibliche Sicht der Dinge marlies|dekkers ausmacht.

Ich gehe auf Reisen und nehme mit … nun, leider nicht meinen wunderbaren Personal Trainer. Doch sein sexy Sportprogramm ist eine gute Alternative – zumindest, wenn man etwas für Folterungen übrig hat.

Das Heilmittel für alles ist Salzwasser: Schweiß, Tränen, das Meer.

High Heels für die Disco eingepackt? Okay. Fünf verschiedene Bikinis dabei? Okay. Freundin im Gepäck? Okay. Na, dann mal los!

Nix da Privatinseln von Johnny Depp und Infinity-Pool im Ubud Hanging Gardens auf Bali. Mein Lieblingsplatz zum Entspannen im Bikini ist definitiv mein eigenes Dach.

Ein sexy Buch, eine umwerfende Killer-Sonnenbrille, eine Portion heißblütige Musik … das Einpacken meiner Strandtasche ist, als hätte ich eine kleine, private Pre-Beach-Party.

Are you a Groovy Granny? A Brazilian Rockstar or a Glamour Puss? Or perhaps more Naughty-cal But Nice?

Meine Verflossenen erinnern sich noch gut daran, dass ich meiner Zeit meilenweit voraus war.

Smoothies sind toll, doch Obst und Gemüse im Ganzen ist das einzig Wahre. Hier sind die Gründe.

Auf einer einsamen Insel gestrandet? Kein Problem! Vorausgesetzt allerdings, ich habe einen großen Tiegel unbehandeltes Bio-Kokosfett dabei. Lesen Sie, auf wie viele verschiedene Arten ich dieses Allround-Wunder einsetze.

Was bedeutet es, eine Mutter oder Tochter zu sein? Mir fällt es schwer, das in Worte zu fassen. Doch vor einigen Jahren hatte ich die Gelegenheit, genau das in Bildern auszudrücken.

Bikinis sollten nur von dünnen, jungen Frauen getragen werden, oder? Falsch! Meine eigene Mutter hat bewiesen, dass man nie zu alt ist, seine Bikini-Angst zu überwinden.

Nun ja, Krieg ist vielleicht ein wenig übertrieben, doch die Welt der Bademoden ist in zwei Lager geteilt. Und zwar sehr unterschiedliche Lager. Auf welcher Seite stehen Sie?

Kennen Sie das Gefühl? Je näher man dem Meer kommt, desto stärker wird der Drang, sich auszuziehen. Doch Sie brauchen sich nicht ganz bloß zu geben.

Your body, my canvas.
My pleasure, your beauty.

Ernest van der Kwast (34) wurde in Mumbai geboren, ist aber in Rotterdam aufgewachsen. Er ist einer meiner niederländischen Lieblingsautoren. Was ich an ihm bewundere, ist sein Blick für die Magie der gewöhnlichen Dinge und seine Fähigkeit, diese Magie aufzudecken.

Laut dieser indischen Wissenschaft vom Leben sagt Ihr Energietyp viel darüber aus, was gut ist für Ihre Gesundheit und Ihr Wohlbefinden. Und wie sieht es mit Ihrem Sexleben aus?

Safran – dieses Gewürz hat es mir neuerdings sehr angetan, ich bin schon fast besessen davon. Seine rote Farbe ist so kraftvoll, sinnlich und edel, dass ich Safran für den Louboutin unter den Gewürzen halte.

Meine Liebe zu Bollywood und mein aktuelles Fitness-Faible

Von Kleopatra bis Kate Moss, Smokey Eyes kommen nie aus der Mode. In Indien habe ich die Originalmethode gelernt, mit der man diesen sexy Look kreiert.

Dieses alte Handbuch der Liebe bietet, abgesehen von den vielen akrobatischen Stellungen, einige seltsame und wunderbare, aber auch überraschend brauchbare Tipps für moderne Liebende.

Das Geheimnis meiner Haare? Henna!

Schon immer habe ich gern mit den Händen gegessen, doch manchmal fühlte ich mich dabei wie ein kulinarischer Barbar. Bis ich Indien besuchte…

Mit der verrückten Farb-Orgie wird mehr gefeiert als nur der Beginn des Frühlings

Zeit ihres Lebens verfasste die hinduistische Dichterin Mirabai über 1300 Bhajans, der Gottheit Krishna gewidmete „Liebeslieder“. Die reine Liebe und die erotische Symbolik zwischen den beiden transzendieren Jahrhunderte und Kulturen.

Einführung: Die Klänge, die Farben, die Aromen und die Düfte … Indien ist berauschend und kein anderes Land inspiriert mich mehr. Aber genau wie seine Götter hat auch Indien viele Gesichter.

Ich muss gestehen, ich bin hin und weg von Indien – förmlich süchtig bin ich nach diesem manchmal verrückten, doch immer überwältigenden Land. Hier sind meine 3 ganz persönlichen Hotspots.

Zunächst muss ich etwas gestehen: Ich bin ein ziemlicher Kultur-Snob. Klassische Musik, Literatur … es sind die hochkarätigen Sachen, die mich ins Schwärmen geraten lassen. Mein absolutes Lieblingsbuch ist Dantes Göttliche Komödie, ich denke, das sagt genug. Dennoch habe ich Fifty Shades of Grey richtig gern gelesen – und mit mir 100 Millionen (!) Frauen auf der ganzen Welt.

Seit über 20 Jahren bin ich nun schon im Geschäft und habe gesehen, was hochkarätige Make-up-Künstler alles zaubern können. Es ist richtig aufregend, zu beobachten, wie sie Menschen komplett verwandeln – mich eingeschlossen! Ich ermutige alle Damen, ihr eigener Make-up-Künstler zu sein. Wir drücken uns mit unserer Kleidung aus, weshalb nicht auch mit unserem Make-up? Hier folgen ein paar richtig gute Tipps und Tricks, die ich mir eigenhändig von den Profis abgeguckt habe.

Paris, the city of love, great minds, pere Lachaise, fashion and arts.
I’ve been visiting Paris for almost thirty years and every time when I walk through this beautiful city, I have the irresistible need to pay a visit to a show in Opéra Garnier.

Während meiner Irrfahrten, um die mich schon ewig plagenden Blasenentzündungen loszuwerden, habe ich Ärzte in der ganzen Welt aufgesucht. Sie waren meistens männlich und erzählten mir so viel Unsinn, dass ich mich schließlich wie eine total entnervte Alice im Wunderland fühlte

Diese wirklich simple Übung kann die tiefsten Wünsche Ihres oder Ihrer Geliebten sowie Ihre eigenen Wünsche zu Tage fördern. Wer weiß, vielleicht überraschen Sie ja sich selbst! Auf jeden Fall wird es ein Valentinstag mit einer gehörigen Portion Sex-Appeal.

Der Liebsten zum Valentinstag Dessous schenken, ist das nicht arg klischeehaft? Nicht unbedingt – wenn man es denn richtig macht. Also los, entfachen Sie das Feuer in ihr, Light her Fire!

Lesen Sie, wie ein matschiges, braunes Etwas mein Herz eroberte und was ich zum Valentinstag für meinen Schatz kochen werde.

Mit meinen Dessous berühre ich Ihren Körper und verfolge sanft seine Kurven. Ich küsse Sie von oben bis unten, hinterlasse meine Spuren.

Küssen in der romantischsten Stadt der Welt? Nur Mut!

Selfies sind ein wichtiger Bestandteil unserer modernen Kultur geworden. Darüber freue ich mich als Mega-Selfie-Fan ganz gewaltig. Vielen brennt jedoch eine Frage auf den Lippen: „WARUM???“

Gönnen Sie sich ein Verhältnis mit Ihrem Essen!

Ich finde, selbst zu kochen erdet, entspannt und ist sogar sexy. Um es mit dem Autor Michael Pollan zu sagen: „The very best cooking is a form of intimacy” (in etwa: Kochen in seiner Vollendung ist ein Ausdruck von Intimität). Also sage ich meinen Freundinnen, sie sollen zurück in die Küche an den Herd. Einige folgen meinem Rat, andere meinen, ich sei verrückt geworden. Meine gute Freundin Heleen van Royen zum Beispiel.

Königin Elisabeth I. war ein großer Fan der Allround-Knolle, die auch ein bekanntes Heilmittel gegen Übelkeit und Erkältung ist. Aber wussten Sie, dass Ingwer einen Menschen auch in sexuelle Ekstase bringen kann? Doch erst einmal verrate ich Ihnen, wie man einen perfekten Ingwertee zubereitet.

Was will ich der Welt sagen? Um das herauszufinden, muss man manchmal seine Seele entblößen. Für mich war es so weit, als ich mein „Nackter-Po-Kleid“, das heute ein Museumsstück ist, entwarf. Lesen Sie, was geschah, als ich mein Kleid zu Testzwecken ausführte – und zwar durch das Amsterdamer Rotlichtviertel.

Almost a new year, for a lot of people the time to make up their new year resolutions. Not for me. I look back on what happened the past year and take the time for some honest and important self-reflection.

From a young age I’ve done all kinds of sports. I’m an active person who likes to challenge myself. But I came to the shocking conclusion that I used to sport like a girl…

The cold wind, dry air, freezing temperatures, dark nights… it is winter! While others grumble about the upcoming snow, I’m singing Christmas songs and make my home a winter wonderland.

In life you meet all kind of people. With some you have a superficial connection, others you forget after a while, but the best ones are those who touch your heart and complement your life.

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According to a recent study, ‘men have more varied sexual fantasies than women’. We have some catching up to do, ladies! Let’s start now, by taking that sexy selfie one step further.

Classical music means everything to me. I wake up and go to bed with it. My participation at Maestro gave me the opportunity to immerge in the world of great composer in which I find so much joy.

My story starts with a motto. A motto which I have for more than 20 years. It has always inspired me but most of all I want to inspire others with my saying; dare to dream, dare to grow, dare to be.

My live has been a journey of learning, trying and finding my way to, eventually, my own destiny. With my blog Maison Marlies I share it all, no holding back.

I’m still in the running to become a Maestro and they gave me the ultimate test to stay concentrated. I had to conduct with one of the biggest harp players of the world. Something happened during the show, which made me forget the entire orchestra and audience.

We had to do a new photoshoot and while searching for the right team I suddenly thought, I should make the photos myself! Being a creative means sometimes having ideas in your head which are hard to explain to others.

When I became 45 I wanted to give myself a birthday present. What would make me really happy? It would be great if I could give myself another 10 years of the energy level I had at that moment. I collected a team around me with specialists, personal trainers and nutritional experts, to help me with this goal.

For a television program I am competing with 8 other Dutch personalities to become THE “Maestro”. The last few weeks have been nerve wrecking; I found my new passion.

I never have a week with a same sort of agenda as the week before, or the week ahead. That’s because I sometimes live the life of four different people.

I have the most amazing daughter in the whole wide world, let’s start with that. But sometimes I feel there’s a difference between what we both perceive as being normal.