As soon as I held my newborn daughter Zilver in my arms, I realized that I had been given a hugely important task: to give her wings. So, I raised her using the exact same motto with which I design all my lingerie: dare to dream, dare to grow, dare to be. And I never stopped using my own wings to fly, traveling the world to make my dreams come true. Because I believed that being ‘more than a mother’ was the best way to teach by example. But what did Zilver think of having a mother with wanderlust?
Marlies: When you were little, I was away a lot on business trips. But whenever I could, I would bring you with me. We had some crazy trips; do you remember my store opening in Bangkok where you and I performed as majorettes?
Zilver: (laughs) Oh, I do! I was 7 years old. And how about that safari in South-Africa? I was convinced we were going to crash somewhere on the savannah in that tiny Cessna, and you slept through the entire bumpy flight!
Marlies: (laughs) Well, I figured: there’s nothing I can do about it, right? How do you look back on that aspect of your childhood?
Zilver: To be honest, I did miss you a lot when you were away. Do you remember how I would sometimes try to clean the house before you came home, so you would be extra happy to be back? But I somehow realized, even at an early age, that traveling was a big part of who you are. I accepted and respected that. And it now is a big part of who I am myself, hence the ‘wanderlust’ tattoo I got recently! When did your ‘wanderlust’ actually start?
Marlies: We used to spend our summer holidays on a camping in Spain where we would drive by car, passing through France during the night. When I was about 7 years old, I got it in my head that we would pass the Eiffel Tower, so I stayed up, afraid to miss it. Of course, my parents didn’t drive through Paris and I was devastated I didn’t get to see it! I did finally get to visit the Eiffel Tower, years, later, while backpacking through Europe by train with my sister. Wow, what a trip! I remember sleeping under a bridge because we were on such a tight budget.
Zilver: Wait a minute, you never told me that!
Marlies: (laughs) I didn’t want you to get any ideas in your head, young lady! But perhaps you understand even better now why having my own show during the Paris Fashion Week, a stone’s throw away from the Eiffel Tower, was such a big deal for me. It was the culmination of a lifelong dream. And it was extra special to have you there!
Zilver: I remember rushing on to the stage and literally jumping on top of you at the end of the show, even though you were surrounded by models and photographers. I was 9 years old and felt you had spent enough time with all those strangers all day. It was my turn!
Marlies: You were always very good about letting me know when you needed me; that’s why I felt it was safe for me to travel as much as I did. You always gave me honest feedback about my role as a mother. As a matter of fact, when you hit your teens, you told me you were fed up with traveling.
Zilver: I felt that I had been missing out on a lot of things happening at home with my friends. So, for a few years, I refused to travel, and you allowed me that space. But when I turned 16 and you offered to take me on a trip, anywhere I wanted to, I couldn’t refuse! I had been obsessed with Dexter (a crime series about a serial killer, red.) and we went to Miami to visit al his murder sites. That’s when my wanderlust kicked in for real, and I found out what a great travel team we make!
Marlies: Your topographical skills and sense of direction are unparalleled, whereas I am adventurous and easily make contact with locals. Plus, I take the best pictures of you for Instagram.
Zilver: (laughs) You do! I know it wasn’t always easy for you to leave me to go on a business trip when I was little. It wasn’t always easy for me. But I am so glad you did. If anything, you have shown me how traveling makes you a more open, tolerant and complete person.
Marlies: That is so good to hear. Thank you for your support and patience, Zilver. I am incredibly lucky to have you as both my daughter and travel buddie.
fall|winter 20 preview
In January, I presented my newest FW20 collection during a show full of dance and entertainment in Rotterdam. All my work as a feminist designer is inspired by muses, powerful female icons from past and present. And for FW20, my muse will be crime writer Agatha Christie. A few months from now, you will get to discover the collections, and see how they tell stories like Agatha’s thrilling books do..
Running for your life
Dr. Bram Bakker is a psychiatrist, a writer, a runner and a provocateur. With his many bestselling books and columns – and yes, even his own theatre show – he urges us to think outside the box when it comes to our mental health. Not crazy about popping pills? Bram shared some interesting alternatives with me, from throwing out our phones to running ‘till we puke’.
Peas & peppers instead of pills
General practitioner Tamara de Weijer believes that we would feel a lot better if we hit the produce stand before we visited the pharmacy. “On a massive scale, we have been putting the wrong kind of fuel in our bodies.”
Singles Day – You’ve Got this!
All the single ladies, listen up! With single women rapidly becoming the majority, it is high time to stop feeling singled out. This Singles Day, let’s celebrate our freedom and independence by sharing all those solo milestones that make us go: ‘You’ve got this!’.