I believe in turning yourself on
Have you ever taken a sexy selfie? I bet you have. And I bet it turned you on. Maybe you shared it on Instagram or with your lover, maybe you kept it for yourself or even deleted it! It doesn’t matter; while you were taking that picture, you were not comparing yourself to Gisele Bundchen or Kim Kardashian, you were just thinking: ‘Goddamn, I am HOT!’ You were claiming your own unique beauty, and you were shameless about it. Now, I want you to take it one step further. How about writing down your secret sexual fantasy? How about digging deep and finding out what REALLY turns you on? Like a sexy selfie, but in words.
According to a recent survey held in Canada amongst 1500 adults, 65% of women are interested in being dominated. That means most of you like to be told what to do! Perfect! Because I have homework for you. I want you to sit down, get comfortable, and set an alarm for 10 minutes. Grab a piece of paper or your phone (make sure it’s on airplane mode, no distracting yourself with cat videos), and think of a situation that would really turn you on.
These are the only rules:
1. Keep writing for at least 10 minutes. Don’t stop, don’t give up, even if you feel ridiculous or uninspired.
2. Be absolutely shameless. There are no ‘bad’ fantasies. The sky’s the limit!
3. Write this story either for yourself or for a lover, real or fantasy. Nobody else needs to see it.
The reason I want you to share your fantasy is because I truly believe that women need to explore what turns them on. Let’s inspire each other! In the same Canadian studies that I mentioned earlier, it appeared ‘that men have more varied sexual fantasies than women, describe them more vividly, and want them to come true (unlike women).’
We have some catching up to do, ladies! I’ll start. In my next blog, I will be sharing an absolutely shameless fantasy I had during a stop over in Atlanta recently. Here’s a teaser:
“After a while, I feel myself arching my back, pushing my butt up towards his hands. The energy in the room shifts as he slowly pulls the cover down, exposing my naked, yearning body.”
To be continued…
REFLECTIONS FROM YOUR MIRROR
FOR THE WOMEN OF THE WORLD
Between king and QUEEN
Who is Tasya van Ree? The mysterious girl in the big black hat has been fascinating art connoisseurs and fashion lovers alike since she burst onto the scene with her stunning black-and-white photographs of celebrities like Michelle Rodriguez and (one-time lover) Amber Heard. I asked the Hawaiian-born visual artist of Dutch-Japanese ancestry (41) about her art and soul. “Between both King and Queen is where I exist.”
Sara Mearns (31) is New York City Ballet’s boldest ballerina. A passionate, intense dancer, she started dancing at 3 and starred in Swan Lake when she was only 19. But instead of resting on her laurels, Sara has kept challenging herself with daring projects, from a collaboration with hip-hop dancers to a leading role in a Broadway show. I talked with the fierce Swan Queen about sacrifices, body confidence, and how to turn pain into gain. “I’m not the typical skinny, tall, long-neck kind of ballerina.”
The art of love!
Get your creative juices flowing
This Valentine’s, don’t wait around for that love-note or those fancy chocolates to feel loved and desired. Express yourself to fall in love with yourself, now!