Dare to be an original Valentine- Lingerie shopping for your partner 2.0
I think one of the most romantic things you can do for someone is making their sexual dream come true. And lingerie can play a big part in that. Here’s how:
1. First of all: what makes her tick? Who is she in her sexual fantasies? And what role do you play in those? Maybe you’ve never asked, maybe you have and it was hard for her to express it. In that case you could try the writing exercise I shared with you earlier to loosen things up. Or plan a romantic dinner. Just make her feel like she can trust you with her secrets, however extreme –or tame!- they may be.
2. Now take a good look at her. What is her shape, what are her sizes? I can assure you, it’s a huge turn-on for a woman when a man gets her sizes right. If you have to, steal one of her bras and bring it to the lingerie store. You could even show pictures of your lover to the staff. They have a trained eye and know a thing or two about discretion.
3. Okay, it’s shopping time! Try to look at the collections through the eyes of the woman she is in her sexual fantasies. Try to imagine how she looks and feels when she wears it. By all means, say yes to a glass of champagne when being offered one. Have fun, take some risks.
4. Bonus tip: don’t forget about your own role in her sexual fantasies! Dress the part. She may have a very specific fantasy, like the window cleaner she invites in for coffee and more, or maybe she just wants to see you in a sharp business suit. You’ll see, thinking of her turned on by how you look, will turn you on too! Isn’t it great how passion works? Have a sexy Valentine!
REFLECTIONS FROM YOUR MIRROR
FOR THE WOMEN OF THE WORLD
Between king and QUEEN
Who is Tasya van Ree? The mysterious girl in the big black hat has been fascinating art connoisseurs and fashion lovers alike since she burst onto the scene with her stunning black-and-white photographs of celebrities like Michelle Rodriguez and (one-time lover) Amber Heard. I asked the Hawaiian-born visual artist of Dutch-Japanese ancestry (41) about her art and soul. “Between both King and Queen is where I exist.”
Sara Mearns (31) is New York City Ballet’s boldest ballerina. A passionate, intense dancer, she started dancing at 3 and starred in Swan Lake when she was only 19. But instead of resting on her laurels, Sara has kept challenging herself with daring projects, from a collaboration with hip-hop dancers to a leading role in a Broadway show. I talked with the fierce Swan Queen about sacrifices, body confidence, and how to turn pain into gain. “I’m not the typical skinny, tall, long-neck kind of ballerina.”
The art of love!
Get your creative juices flowing
This Valentine’s, don’t wait around for that love-note or those fancy chocolates to feel loved and desired. Express yourself to fall in love with yourself, now!